Church Planting is not sexy

I look back on old photos and laugh at what was once thought as “good looking” or “sexy” in my glory days of junior high and high school. It was all about baggy pants. Now, skinny jeans are in. And the hair! From undercuts to bleached-tip spikes, from shag or fro to faux-hawk or high-top fade, from middle parts to a slick-back or comb over, trends and fads come and go, and in the height of each trend we all thought we looked SO SEXY!

Fads are interesting. They make us do stupid things. Bleached hair was never a good idea! But more than that, fads can be dangerous. Fads can pull us into situations that are a lot harder to get out of than fashion choices. Fads can occur in every area of life: diet, college selection, career choice, child rearing tactics, fitness goals, dating/marriage choices, religion, habits, and much more. Some fads are silly and short lived while others can change the entire trajectory of our life.

Over the years of ministry, there were multiple occasions I would hear people in the church world say, “Church planting is sexy.” This statement would always catch me off guard because by no means have I ever thought that. Don’t get me wrong, there are aspects to church planting that are enticing, but I have long thought the “trench work” of it all far outweighs the intrigue. When I began the process of church planting, quite a few leaders in the church planting networks I’m a part of would say, “We want to make sure you are not chasing a church for the ‘sex appeal’ of it.” I thought to myself, “What are they saying! Church planting is NOT SEXY!” In fact, I watched a friend of mine church plant about 14 years ago and told him and myself, “I WILL NEVER church plant!” I have seen friends both succeed and fail at church planting, but the one thing they both had in common was that they both performed the incredibly daunting and challenging job of actually planting a church. Starting something out of nothing isn’t sexy!

When we start something, it’s very important to make sure we’re not making a short-term and/or emotional decision or giving into a fad or trend. It’s really easy to think of the positive parts of church planting: starting fresh, shaping culture, casting vision, choosing a city, seeing lives changed, and empowering people to change self, the community, and the world. However, we need to make sure we enter this role with realistic expectations not only the feel-good ones.

If you or someone you know is thinking about church planting here are some things to work through:

  1. You will always have more work than you have time to accomplish.
  2. Work will still be there tomorrow, but your time with your spouse and kids may not be.
  3. You will be needed A LOT and it will take focused diligence to train others around you so that you are NOT needed all the time.
  4. Set up does not happen by itself.
  5. Building a team is one thing; maintaining and encouraging that team is an entirely different thing.
  6. Keep the vision alive, but also keep the relationships alive—care and love people.
  7. Money doesn’t grow on trees.
  8. When raising money, remember, it is not mine or theirs to begin with. If they say “no,” ask someone else.
  9. You will be praised more than you deserve and you will be blamed more than you deserve.
  10. Don’t get too excited about positive affirmation and/or attention.
  11. Don’t get too offended when people point the finger at you.
  12. Church is the business of relationships: first with God and then with others.
  13. The most important relationship is Jesus. Period. Be a person of integrity IN EVERY setting.
  14. The Lord (and often your kids and spouse) see the real you. Your fruit will be as sweet as your personal growth with Christ and your outpour will reflect how present the Holy Spirit is in your personal life.
  15. Sometimes Satan’s biggest goal is not keeping someone from church, but instead introducing them to a really annoying/hurtful “Christian.” Don’t be that person.

Now please don’t think I am pointing people away from church planting. That is not my intention at all. I would love to see healthy churches in every community around the world. But a truth is, healthy churches are led by healthy leadership, and healthy leadership sees both pros and cons before jumping headlong into a choice. These are not “warnings,” they are just food for thought. My hope is that this list is a starting point for people to figure out as many of the “hard choices” of ministry as soon as possible, preferably BEFORE you encounter the trial. And while we will inevitably find many “hard choices” along the way, if we set our expectation on process not perfection, we will be much better to ourselves, our family, and our church.

Who’s Next?

Are you a catalytic leader who is ready to start a great church? Stadia is ready to help! We’re looking for leaders to start churches across the country, especially in Los Angeles, where we have a vision to see a new church planted in every neighborhood in that city. Let us know you’re interested in starting the church planting journey and we’ll send you a download to our FREE E-Book “Be Next: How to Become a Church Planter.”


Interested in exploring church planting? Let’s get started! 

Jeff Snodgrass, Lead Planter
Unite Church (Pasadena, CA)

Jeff Snodgrass has been in full time ministry for twelve years and has an intense passion making disciples, maximizing the ability of all around him, and mending racial divides. He and his wife have been married since 2007 and added four children to the family between January 2012 and December 2013. God has brought their children to them in a divine and purposeful way. The oldest two are twins at the age of twenty-one and the younger two are both boys only seven months apart.